It is tough to say 'I am sorry' but sometimes it is even tougher to accept this 'I am sorry' from someone who hurt you. Because some things can't be fixed with a "sorry".
People say only the strongest can forgive.
Forgive and be forgiven.
Forgive but don't forget.
Forgiving is not forgetting, it's letting go of the hurt. But if you can't forget what's the sense in forgiving? Because it seems to bother you every now and then and trust is never the same anymore.
But then in the long run, it's not a question of whether they deserve to be forgiven. You don't forgive them for their own sake. Do it for yourself. Don't let these people stay in your heart and mind for long. Don't be the prisoner of someone's mistakes. let it go. Feel good about it.
Forgiveness brings inner peace.
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Very well said.. but its not easy to forget things at times.. and one forgive easily mostly coz one love the person and don't want them to suffer.. may be.. my thinking.. *smiles*
Hmm, am someone you who will talk bout it (whatever bad twas) for long hours (at a stretch! hehe!) and clear it ALL out with the person. after that, it feels nice err, automatically, and the incident is not contemplated over any further. i think 'this' is what 'forgettin' should mean here. literally of course tis not possible. but not contemplatin bout it further, is closest to 'the literal forgettin'
:)
I wish..How can I do this? It is easy to say, "I forgive and forget" but so hard to let go.
I forgive...but don't forget. n if it comes down to it...will probably pinpoint the mistake as well... wat to do...im so human!!
Wow what a fantastic post!
**But if you can't forget what's the sense in forgiving?
I always thought abt that. To me, Forgiving is Forgetting too. O.W. there's no point. But it's very hard to forget some things.
So even tho I tell myself that I hv forgiven some ppl, I really cant forget.
**Do it for yourself. Don't let these people stay in your heart and mind for long. Don't be the prisoner of someone's mistakes. let it go. Feel good about it.
I really like wut u said. Letting go is the best solution to life's many tortures. If everyone thought like u did Lena, this world wud be a much better place!
*HUGZ* ur beautiful!
Keshi.
However, Letting go is not that easy tho...its a very difficult process that leads to self-realisation and total bliss, if practised every day.
Keshi.
I totally agree where you say, 'forgive for your own sake'.
At times., the hurt is so bad that no matter how close you were, no matter how many sunshines you witnessed and the laughs you shared...it just doesnt mean anything anymore.
YOu think over it for days, until you realise that the only way you can get over yourself is forgiving them.
But tell you what Le, I havent been able to do that. Though I have forgotten them, gotten over them and can think without a pang of pain.
yup its easy to forgive and very hard to forget.....
nice post..
To forgive yes, but to forget..emmm it's going to be so hard although it's possible...
how true...forgiveness does bring inner peace.
i m in a hurry right now. but i'll add u up in blogroll soon.
cheers
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True ya!!
Forgive not because the question is whether they deserve it or not? But forgive when you fl okay, when YOU want to forgive.
Though I have always stuck to the 'forgive but never forget' attitude, yet you do make me think, what is the point in forgiving if you can not forget it? Also, sometimes, you really want to forgive, but are so hurt that you just do not know what to do, maybe not want to think about it at all too!
Great post! :)
..I havent been able to forgive them...
(missed this part of the sentence in the previous comment)
Yeah,
Well to forgive is easy but to forget depends upon the intensity of hurt.
Even though u hve forgiven , but the things keeps on runnin in back of ur mind y this has happened?, how can person do such things? N its difficult to explain urself tht such thing can happen. But then also you forgive them because u love them.
But in long run if such mistakes keeps on happening, then its a diffcult decision to take whether to forgive them or just forget them.
@ hope: thats how i think, too..but you cant forgive them all the time, can you?
@ busy writer: talking things over is good, but even if you clear any doubts you wont be able to get over the fact that someone very close hurt you a lot, so easily... sometimes it is tough not to contemplate about it further
@ solitaire: it takes a lot of time, i wish it could be easier **sigh**
@ pavi: you summed my thoughts up.. yes, we are too human to let it go thats easily
@ keshi: thanks a lot dear :) you are right, it takes a lot of time, sometimes more than we expect
@ Cindy: i wrote this post because i feel the same way as you described. The hurt was so much that it was impossible to get over it. But then for my own sake i tried to forgive them and i guess it worked. i am feeling better :)
@ nirmal: thanks :)
@ noushy: i believe it is possible, very tough but still possible :)
@ viraj: thanks for coming by.. right you are, inner peace.. and thats what we all need, dont we? thanks for adding me to your blogroll :)
@ Nabila Zehra Zaidi: forgiveness brings confusing feelings, right? You want to feel good but you cant because you are hurt and dont think you can get over it. But in the end, for your inner peace, you just have to :)
@ Cindy: i understood it without saying, was implicit in there :)
@ satan: you forgive them because you love them.... thats so much true, just sometimes the hurt is much more than your love for them. Then there is no point in forgiving for their sake, only for your own :)
@Lena
Yeah so true, u forgive them for your own sake. Love is selfish.
"Forgiveness brings inner peace... " cant agree with u more!!!
beautifully expressed and i feel like my heart is speaking!!! :)
Cheers!!!
I cant forget, i cant forgive :P
Yet i expect people to forget and forgive my mistakes :P funny na :P
@ satan: agreed to love is selfish but yet it is not in the same time. What a paradox!
@ ankur: seems i think like you these days :D
@ divvi: so do i :P but thats life, isnt it?
absolutely, keepin the hurt is like clutterin the heart and mind.
periodic cleaning is essential :)
@ vandi:
*periodic cleaning is essential :)
loved the line, might borrow it with paying all the due credits ;)
periodic cleaning is essential
But the hard stains still remain..
Some wounds just run too deep and are too hard to forget,even if forgiven!
Great are those who can do both :)
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