Friendship is based on trust, how can you trust someone who you have never met?
And does it mean the online friendship is not a friendship in full sense?
Or is it based on some different kind of trust?
How REAL an ONLINE friendship can be?
How much can you get attached to someone you have never seen face-to-face?
How much it hurts when they leave? And do they ALWAYS leave?
These are just questions, i have my own answers, you have yours... more of my own you can read on the main blog HERE... more of your thoughts I want to read in my comments section :)
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lena,
online friendship can be as real as face-to-face friendship. I think when you get to know someone online, you get to see the personality (of course they could disguise too), but if you are lucky, you get to meet some genuine people online. I know friends who got to know each other online and ended up in marriage too, and are still very happy together. Of course, meeting online will lead to meeting in real, and that's when you could tell if it's sincere or not. Got to be wise to judge, always leave some room to suspicious and being skeptical until you meet the person.
I'm posting the same comment that i wrote on Aneri's blog who wrote abt the same thing earlier this week :
So when u say online if ur talking about friends who u keep in touch wit thru’ chat n mail..(no) thanks to long distance…then I agree with u..Some of the friends I keep in touch with thru’ chat are more REAL than the people I meet on a daily basis. They provide me great comfort.
But the same can’t be said about friends that one makes on a social network. Now pls don’t get me wrong. I’ve met some great people in Blogsphere. This is one place I never get lonely in or never feel out of place. I’m the kinda person who takes time to make friends. I don’t blv in “love at first sight” nor “friendship at first sight”….one never gets to know a person in an instant. But there are some people who I’ve felt like getting to know more n done the same. They are more than acquaintances. They are friends…
But yet if any1 of ‘em don’t keep in touch, don’t visit me, don’t sense/miss my absence. I don’t feel I can Q them. I don’t feel they owe that to me. Whereas with my REAL friends…I can confidently ask ‘em abt why they hvn’t kept in touch. n that’s the difference.
Interesting questions, Lena. I think online friendships reflect real friendships and so there will be those who will feel - and be - like "real" friends and those who are more like passing acquaintances.
It was just wonderful...I suppose, in my life i had a moment with online friendship. feeling like Ihave someone.. point comes when things change. Like they become busy, give me less time, forget to call, don't reply to my messages...And then the thought crawls into my mind .I mean most probably I belong to that "Emotional fools" - type who believe in eternal friendship, devotion, dedication, attachment and caring. I learnt a lot from that!
hmmm..well i am somhow th overly cautious and wary variety...it is a bit difficult for me to be able to trust some one too much without meeting the person...Though I dont think its impossible..
As they say..sometimes its all about striking the right chords...
i dont think there is any difference Lena, do u remember, u urself said, ppl can lie anywhere... :)
also the fact abt leaving, its u who make them go, and if u want u can make them stay too!!!
Cheers!!!
i do not judge friendship.. it is just a feeler that keeps me smiling.. doesnt matter if that human being is a known person or a strabger... as long as I can keep myself without getting hurt, no one can harm me
@ Lena,
I think that proximity can bring two people closer much faster than an online friendship with someone you have never met can. However, I also feel that if one can be sincere, genuine, dedicated, and committed, an online relationship can flourish. Sadly, not everyone is. It is easier to be fake, and goody-goody online, without the other person having an inclination of what you kind of a person you truly are. I dont think its really black or white or one way or the other.
frienship is a feeling which is the art of relating.It need not be a livibg being.Friendship can be with anything.We should first be friendly with ourselves through our own thoughts.
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how can i trust someone ive never met... i dont think meetin is even a criteria, sometimes u cant trust the ppl who u meet everyday...just is!
online frndship... again for me its abt the connection, u never know who clicks some ppl do and then they stick... thats how it worked/works for me
its the same kinda trust, only u dont fear it so much like in actual or contact
very attached...im speakin for myself, has happened to me
it does hurt a lot but its the same when u loose touch with a 'real' frnd
and they DONT ALWAYS leave
Hi Lena,
Even online friends can be real friends. But cyberspace is really fastpaced. We all have our own reasons for blogging and sometimes our priorities change. But people like you will always remain a shining star in the firmament of heaven. Thanks for yuour meaningful posts. God bless.
Hi.. iTs Me ..VIkAsh a Friend of ur from the same world where u live.. n others too
..What's i think on ur Q?
1.Friendship is based on trust, how can you trust someone who you have never met?
[b]>>[/b]just remember the first day of ur school.. the feeling, the excitment ..nd the joY
its same as friendship..
u dont know about anything in ur New school nor about anyone but People always say about it its good to be in school..
..so if we fear to attend it, we lost so many things bad and good, that,s a school teach us through our entire life..
..nd that's why we comes in Friendship .. nd do trust on others.. ..Learn so many things, bad ..nd GuD.
hows u Lena?
Keshi.
I think its all about our instincts and how much of ourselves we wann give away and how much and in what form do we wanna keeop the other person as...
Online frenship isnt shit, coz the words that are coming from the other end are from humans who have flesh and blood like we do, and have hearts that beat just like ours. And the words that come, many a ties are responsible for having helped us in coming outta pains, learning important lessons, and opening our eyes to things that wuokdnt have happened hadnt they been there...
Guess I've said enough...
The medium does not matter
It is the feelings which do
As for who leave and who stay
None can predict,not me not U :)
I suppose it depends on how sincere you want your online friendship to be, ya? It all depends on the individual in the end ...
I've known online relationships to go both ways. It does take some hurt to find a fantastic relationship because it means two people have to become one, giving up some of their past needs to flow evenly with their partner's. It's give and take and the road can be difficult but love pays us back with it's power of feeling alive!!!
Good morning, Lena. :D
Hugs, JJ
I believe I have found few extremely good friends here. nd i know they will be special for life :) :)
It is true that we can meet some good friends on line.
Through interaction, we can know her or him better.
Have a nice day.
well u have really long comments but all i can say is this..friendship is what u want it to be... if u really want to take online friendship seriously then go ahead.... there are loads of ppl in the world so some one or there must be many who think like u... go ahead n find someone who shares the same feelings as u do...
btw its quite a popular topic for discussion nowadays...
nyway my blogs updated so plz chk it out when ur free
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and about online relationships...did i tell i am here to stay? :)
nice post.....well this post is confusing....coz even i cant believe persons who we dint meet in real.......but sometimes real people can cheat us....so online friends can real to....
well it depends on individual actually....
nice post..
thank you all for your comments and feedback :)
Unfortunately because of the lack of time i was not able to reply to each comment individually. Hope i will be able to get back to them soon :)
Till then, you all take care :)
And have a great day!
heyy... here after a long time.
i believe meeting is really over-rated. i have made a few friends on blog-ville...u, included, who're as real as my brick & mortar friends.
so far, no negative experience. i'm rather reserved... and i guess that's helped me sift off the chaff from the wheat so far.
in fact, i haven't met any of my blog-pals. but i know they're there for me when i need them. and that's what friends are for, aren't they?
but if u mean ppl on social networking sites... then no. i don't add anyone unless i know that they are who they are saying they are.
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